Monday, September 26, 2011

When people "un-friend" you

The other day, a friend of mine, "un-friended" me on Facebook. It hurt. This friend is dear to me, and I did nothing to warrant his "un-friending." Matter of fact, I love this friend. But, he, like so many people on this planet, became numb by tragedy. The death of a father ended in the loss of a son. He still lives in the flesh, but he's angry at God. I have spent truly a lifetime trying to help this friend. I have been a shoulder for him when his dad died. I have comforted him, and gently answered his questions about faith and life and God. I have counseled him through thoughts of suicide, worthlessness, and severe depression. I have tried to show Him the God that I know personally. I have cried for him. I've been on my knees for him. I have wanted to stuff truth into his heart and mind, because I don't want Him to know the despair that is Hell. Please don't think for a second that I have shoved the gospel down his throat. I don't shove. Christ doesn't shove. He gently loves us and gives us each a choice to believe or go another way. 
So many people think that Christians stand in judgement over their lives and they never give Christ a chance to show them the truth about salvation. And I understand why some people get the wrong idea. I have been burned by Christians myself. I have felt the sting of rejection from people that I thought would love me as Christ has loved them. But, don't let humanity stand in between you and a loving relationship with a perfect God. See, I am not perfect. Christians are not perfect. But, Christ was. He wants a relationship with you.

If I could stuff that truth into your heart, I would do it. But, I can only tell you who God is to me. I can tell you how he saved my life, how He delivered me from death. I can tell you about each answered prayer, some answered when I never uttered a word out loud. I can tell you about every dream that He has put within me (even when they seemed crazy at the time) and show you how He has caused them to surface over time. Yet, at the end of the day, I can only speak for me. I will stand in my own shoes when He returns and you will stand in yours.
"...On the day when, according to my gospel, "God will judge the secrets of men through Christ Jesus." Romans 2: 16

Did you hear that? 

"What man among you, if he has a hundred sheep and has lost one of them, does not leave the ninety-nine in the open pasture, and go after the one which is lost, until he finds it? And when he has found it, he lays it on his shoulders, rejoicing. And when he comes home, he calls together his friends and his neighbors, saying to them, 'Rejoice with me, for I have found my sheep which was lost! I tell you that in the same way, there will be more joy in heaven over one sinner who repents, than over ninety-nine righteous persons who need no repentance." Luke 15:4-7

It is through a relationship with Jesus Christ that you become God's child. Let Him in. What do you have to lose? You can "un-friend" God, but He will never "un-friend" you.


Bryan said...

Fantastic post...especially reminding us that Christ refuses to shove His way into our lives...and that God never plans or desires to "un-friend" us. It's amazing He loves us so, when we're at times so unlovable.

Jessica Kirkland said...

Yes, I'm glad He never unfriends us. For the sake of my lost friends, sometimes I wish He did shove..but I know that's not how He works.

Thanks for reading and commenting Bryan!