Monday, January 24, 2011

Baby A Says

Baby A says: "Hey mom, yesterday at church this girl looked at me while we were coloring and said "Hey are you copying me?"  

Mom says: "Well, were you copying her?"

Baby A says: "No, I was just coloring my page." 

Mom says: "So, did you say anything to her?"

Baby A shrugs "No, I just kept on coloring my page."

Is that toddler-speak for "turning the other cheek?"  Maybe, just maybe, this Baby got an A for conflict resolution.  But, I'm curious: How do you resolve the conflict in your life?  Do you...

...jump on facebook or twitter and share a piece of your mind to your "wall?" a friend or family member and state your case?
...stand your ground to the said offender?
...yell at the said offender?
...become a passive-aggressive mess and retaliate at the offender (all with a smile on your face of course)?

...toilet paper their house?

 All conflict is not the same and what might work for one situation may not work for the next. Here is one way that God has instructed me to deal with conflict in the past: 

Matthew 5: 39 says: "But I say to you, do not resist him who is evil; but whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn to him the other also."  In other words, let God vindicate you.  When we live in the light of God's truth, when we know who we are in Christ, then the opinions of others don't carry such toxic weight.  A slap to the cheek. A blow to our pride.  A dig at our honor.  What weight do these really carry if we are walking as God has commanded us to? It's hard to live out Matthew 5:39. I'm not going to lie.  My flesh wants to wage war against flesh and blood when someone offends me, but my heart knows that "our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places." Ephesians 6:12 Sometimes, it's just best to pick up your color and keep coloring your page. 

Dear Lord, you word says that you are our defender; that nothing can take us out of Your hand. Do not let any weapon formed against us be able to prosper today.  Show us how to handle any conflict that might arise in our relationships.  Help us to be children of peace.  Let us remember that our battles are not against flesh and blood, but against Satan himself.  Show us how to live by the truth or your word. Where words and actions have wounded our hearts, touch those places with your healing hand.  
In Jesus name, amen.


Angela Mackey said...

Just read over your most recent posts. You are a blessing. Thank you for the reminders that God is working through the pain. He often does it that way instead of taking us out of situations, He takes us through them.

Jessica Kirkland said...

Thanks Angela! Yes, I think if it were ever up to us we would all just flit right over the hard parts in life, but how would we ever understand God's love - sometimes tough love- but always unconditional love if we got to control our circumstances? Thanks for reading! We need to pick another time for a real phone conversation. I have more to say to you than I can type!

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