Thursday, February 12, 2009

Selective Reduction

She spoke with an accent, though she got insulted when you asked her where she was from. She wore a very "this is weighing my neck down" gold necklace, blue scrubs, and a serious countenance at all times. This was my new doctor. My time at Houston Fertility Clinic had come to an end. They were passing the baton and I...well..I guess I was the baton. And with a weight gain deadline...I was beginning to be a heavy one. Dr. Karolina Adam, despite her serious demeanor, would become my friend. Although she seemed rigid at first, I needed her. We needed her skill, her judgement, and her profound ability to stay composed in tough times.

However, before we were friends, she had to be a professional. Therefore, it was during our first "meet and greet" that by law she had to give us "the speech."
Selective Reduction: "Congratulations, on being parents. You realize you are having four babies and that is really dangerous. By keeping four babies, you are endangering their lives and overall health, as well as your own. You could die. They could die. You could have severe health complications like kidney failure, cardiomyopathy, toxemia, or worse. Your children will be born pre-term. They could be physically, mentally, or hearing impaired because of your choice to continue down this path. You realize the serious strain you are putting on your entire body. Proceeding any further is a very dangerous thing for both you and your children. So, we would like to now offer you an out: it is called selective reduction. You can "reduce" your infants down to one or two and proceed. Things will go alot smoother if you choose this path, better for you and better for your babies. However, if after hearing all that, you still want to proceed, then we will help you the best we can."

Okay. Deep Breath. Any body got a paper bag? Robb and I sat there with blank stares. We already knew our answer, but it was no fun hearing all the risks either. Needless to say, we politely declined their offer. And after they had scared us half to death, we proceeded down the hall for a sonogram. And there they were, the four flipping, jolting, and tugging reasons why "selectively reducing" them was never an option for us.

"For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not harm you, to give you a hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11